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Riding the emotional rollercoaster

So the next time you’re feeling emotional, be curious about it, don’t hide it, don’t put it down, don’t shut down. Walkthrough it and be inspired by it. Try to learn the lessons it’s trying to teach you; and if you’re one of those at the opposite end of the scale, try to nurture, accept and make peace with the fact there are people in this world who feel a little bit more than some

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart”―Helen Keller

When I think about all of the things I’ve experienced over the years and the intensity to which I’ve felt them, I wonder somehow if I’m not plugged into some random national grid of feelings.


It’s a strange concept to me when I think about the years I went through life not being totally connected to all that I felt inside; yet for my entire life, I’ve been the emotional one, often teased for crying too soon or feeling sad at the smallest of situations. As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to the stark realisation that my connection to emotion and feeling is what allows me to forge relationships with those around me on a much deeper level than some can ever comprehend.


When I cast my mind back to the years of bullying and how the concept of all those hurtful words would penetrate deep into everything I was as a person, or how I’ve never been a fan of goodbyes for fear of severing the connection. I simply never thought that those kinds of painful experiences could be transformed into something that would empower me to see more of the world with such clarity or enable to me to ‘connect’ with people that I had never even met.


I once joked with my Mother about the depth in which I could feel painful or joyful situations that were not even my own or being in tears, merely reading articles in the newspaper. It was quite comical how quickly the tears could flow or how watching a movie could result in a ton of kleenex and the need for ice cream. I can recall the time when I watched the film ‘The Passion of the Christ’ and feeling such overwhelming emotional pain during the crucifixion, that I had to pause it and take a moment. Sidenote: I’m not religious.


I think emotion remains an oddity to some, especially those who are closed off to the concept of how someone can wear theirs on their sleeve for all to see; it isn’t a criticism by any sense, hell I sometimes get jealous of those people who can curtail any such reaction to any such situation. For me, however, I’ve made peace with my emotional side and do my best to allow it to flow freely. I’ve given it a lot of thought over the last few years following on from a painful breakdown that ultimately led to the release of years and years worth of emotional plaque.


I began to look at emotion from a completely different perspective, I stopped viewing it as a fault and started looking at it as one of the greatest gifts anyone could be blessed enough to have been given. It allowed a sense of freedom that enabled a crystal clear view of the people around me. I could see (and feel) their struggles, their love, their enjoyment and even their sadness. Now don’t get me wrong, that doesn’t mean to say if someone is sad over losing the love of their life for the fourth time this year, that doesn’t trigger some Olympic eye-rolling, but it would add a sense of perspective to what was going on beneath the surface.


We often hear about how emotion should be viewed as a strength and never a weakness, and yes, as cliché as that sounds, it’s true. But what we also need to remember when we encounter these people (yours truly included and who has the t-shirt) is that these people not only experience the outwardly physical aspects of emotion but they also feel it at their core. They react and feed off the energy around them, meaning they ‘get’ you when you share your pain and your joy. There is a particular delicacy when we think of these people, we often tease them for being ‘over-sensitive’ or ‘over-emotional’ or they can shut down when you shut down, which trust me, is not suitable for our type as it leads to a build-up of anxiety, frustration and a whole lot more ice cream eating. Their connection to human vibration is on a whole other level…. think of dogs and dog whistles.


When it comes to mindfulness and emotions, I have to take the time to reflect, meditate, get out and walk or whatever self-care aspect feels right at the time to be not overly-consumed by emotion, energy or the demands of others. If you’re one of those people like me, taking the time to stop and disconnect as much as possible is imperative, as this permanent state of being switched on can eventually burn you out and leave you emotionally depleted.


We can all benefit from some time of disconnection to re-charge, and we need to note that this is perfectly acceptable. We should each take the time to find the balance between what we do for others and what we do for ourselves — feed your own soul so that you may feed the souls of others. It’s not about being thought-LESS but about being thought-FULL (intentional typo). Self-care is about re-charging the batteries that allow us to shine when others need light.


So the next time you’re feeling emotional, be curious about it, don’t hide it, don’t put it down, don’t shut down. Walkthrough it and be inspired by it. Try to learn the lessons it’s trying to teach you; and if you’re one of those at the opposite end of the scale, try to nurture, accept and make peace with the fact there are people in this world who feel a little bit more than some.


So the next time you’re feeling emotional, be curious about it, don’t hide it, don’t put it down, don’t shut down. Walk through it and be inspired by it. Try to learn the lessons it’s trying to teach you; and if you’re one of those at the opposite end of the scale, try to nurture, accept and make peace with the fact there are people in this world who feel a little bit more than some


So the next time you’re feeling emotional, be curious about it, don’t hide it, don’t put it down, don’t shut down. Walkthrough it and be inspired by it. Try to learn the lessons it’s trying to teach you; and if you’re one of those at the opposite end of the scale, try to nurture, accept and make peace with the fact there are people in this world who feel a little bit more than some



Original Post by David Allison published on July 14th 2019 - https://themindfulnessguy.co.uk/2019/07/14/riding-the-emotional-rollercoaster/


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